How to Forgive Yourself

This article discusses the subject: How to forgive yourself. We will talk about some tips on how to gain a better outlook on life and leave behind negative memories or feelings that could hinder a person from leading a satisfying life.

How to let negatives feelings go...

Humankind is imperfect, and  so often times we do things that  we later regret. But sometimes we find ourselves doing something that we are extremely ashamed of -something that troubles us day and night. At such times you may be burdened with guilt and you wonder how to forgive yourself. It is no small matter; whatever we have done threatens to stick to our long-term memory and confiscate our peace of mind.  But how can you regain the self-esteem that you once had if ever you find yourself in such as situation? That is what we will consider today.

The path to greater happiness

  • Realise that the success of your future lies in learning to deal with your fault and moving on. It is quite possible that you have a past that you are not proud of.  You may think that you have reached the end of your journey- that you are hopeless and that there is no use in trying to move ahead and correct issues in your life. But often times that is far from the truth. You can get up.
  • You can be the person you wish you were from day one. The key step to a successful future is not give up on yourself. However bad your mistake, you can be back on your feet, if you keep the right attitude. You have the power to change your life, your outcome. And it starts with accepting, meditating on and learning from your faults. Then coming to terms with whatever you've done that has lowered your self-esteem. Take the negatives, look them in the eye and turn them right around into life lessons that will keep you on the path of accomplishment.
  • Remember that it is normal to slip up. Even the most cautious person will trip up at some point in their life. Maybe on a icy day, maybe when they  just accidentally miss their step. The fall is inevitable. It will happen. But the most important thing is getting back up. Shaking the dust off, but carrying on nonetheless.
  • The desire to forgive oneself and forget ones past errors is an indication that a  person cares about themselves and their  welfare. They want to live their life feeling content and happy. They want to rid themselves of any moral discomfort or uneasiness. That’s a good thing. So to forgive yourself you must see that it is within you best interests to move on to a fresher outlook.  And just do it. Train yourself not to allow things that should stay in the past to hurt your future.

Talk to yourself... refresh and rethink

  • Have a good cry. Cleanse yourselves out all the emotions you've repressed. But don’t mourn forever. Sometimes the  emotional burden you carry may be just too much. Just too heavy to toss to the side. However much you try, you find that you are unable to throw it behind you. The pain demands to be felt. (Fault in Our Stars novel.) So allow yourself time to weep over your mistake. After all you need to think through it and be truly sorry before you can begin trying to forgive yourself.
  • Make sure that your tears aren't empty and futile. Think about what you dislike about your error, why you hate it and what exactly you want to do about it from there. This critical thought is vital to changing and adapting your life so that you don’t fall over on the same mistake again. It you need to, write it down. Document your thoughts and feelings then look over them a few weeks later to evaluate your actions. Then we you have forgiven yourself, which will come soon after,  you can rip up the paper and really let your burden go, not grow.
  • Bottling up your emotions can be dangerous for you. And for some, crying is just what is needed to let go of those negative emotions. Crying oneself to sleep is better than going to sleep with bottled heartache. Still better is not having to cry in the first place. But if you can feel the tears welling, don’t fight them. Take time to release your pain and relieve yourself.
  • A way to let you deep emotions out is to say your thoughts out loud, even when you are alone. Project your feelings out loud, to help you get too grips with your emotions, because the truth is, sometimes we just need to understand ourselves better. Sometimes we need to connect our heart with  our brain and mind. To organize our thoughts and plan out a solution.

Don't Carry the burden alone

  • Confide in kind listener. It may at first seem mortifying to share something your emotional burden with someone else. It's easy to reason 'this is difficult for me to come to terms with, it would be embarrassing to share it with someone else'. But you'll be amazed at how liberating it can be to share your emotions with someone who will listen patiently.
  • It will bring you a measure of freedom and relief, to know that you are not alone, that you have a listening ear. Tell a trusted family member friend how you feel. Choose someone who you can really trust to take your words seriously and not bring you down. Most times, you will be able to find someone who will give you their eager attention, who will not judge you, someone who indeed wants to be a good friend.
  • You will gradually feel the weight 'lifting from your shoulders'. Why keep you pain to yourself when you can free yourself by talking to a loved one? Having another person's perspective will help you see that you are human, and that your  fault is human.
  • Never forget that something similar has happened to someone somewhere, in the past and it will happen in the future. Your confidant will likely be appreciative for trust and openness towards them and they will likely keep a look out for you, to help you overcome any obstacle you face in the future.

Focus on the positives

  • Keep yourself busy. Do your best to lead a lifestyle that you can be proud of. Do what makes you feel fulfilled. This is vital to help you move ahead and take your further away from any negativity in your past. Surround yourself with positive minds, people who will inspire you to press on and never give up.
  • Set up goals for yourself and realistic plans to help you achieve them. Keep working to change the aspects of yourself that you are not so  pleased with. Commend yourself whenever to resist the temptation to go off course. See yourself as a work in progress, and this will help you to achieve your full potential and not get discouraged.
  • Whatever past action it is that causes you discomfort, keep in mind that letting it go will bring you greater personal freedom and happiness. The past is a place of reference not residence.

So these are a few tips on how to forgive yourself.

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