There's a 'mindset' quote that's never left my mind since I first heard it. Let me share it with you:
I find this to be quite a profound statement. Imagine that - that you can select your thoughts the way you select your clothes each morning? It makes you realise how much power you have, really. And it's so true. There are a range of perspectives to look at any issue from, and it's really our choice which one we pick.
Many times, we just tend to submit to the narrative we think fits us. If something bad happens to us, we think we should be sad, we should be mad, we should feel sorry for ourselves.
We often don't quite realize that only we can decide how we actually want to internalize and respond to an event. Maybe something terrible did happen to you. But, is it making you better in the long-run? This is a lesson I'm still learning, but at such points we can make the decision to overcome weak thoughts and become powerful.
Sometimes I've made poor decisions or done something embarrassing, but none of those things matter as much as the story I tell myself afterwards. Do you find the same in your case?
Ultimately, the thoughts and sentiments I choose to hold on to, build my future. The outcomes depending on whether I choose to hold a healthy optimistic view, or a toxic pessimistic view are very, very different. I know which one I want to pick any day.
The clothing analogy is quite fitting. We pick clothes that make us look good. Do you know that you also wear your thoughts? The thoughts we choose to harbour affect the way we look to others, because our thoughts affect our actions and demeanour. But that's not even the most important part.
When we're wearing our favourite outfit, we also feel good. Same with thoughts. When we choose to pick the thoughts that align with our personal brand (not the default ones that stem from our insecurities) we feel good. We feel good for pushing past the negative thoughts that we struggle with. And it comes round full circle, because feeling good reaffirms the healthy mindset we've chosen.
It's important for us to rid ourselves of thinking patterns that do not serve us, just the way we would remove a stained garment from our bodies.
When we carefully select our thoughts, it does not mean we think our problems have vanished. It just means that we are responsibly and conscientiously deciding to focus on thoughts that will prosper us.
Because not all thoughts do.
Our minds can wander into the deepest darkest places. If you focus on your failures and disappointments, you can shatter your self-esteem and become depressed.
It's much easier to hold on to the negative thoughts (that sadly come naturally) than to positive ones. Just like it's much easier to stay in a dirty outfit than it is to prepare a new outfit and go change again. But when it comes to your mental health, not only is changing worth it, it's vital.
You deserve better, and you can give yourself better.
I love how the quote ends.
It reminds us that selecting your thoughts like you select your clothes is a power. And we can all cultivate it.
Choosing to focus on the best is not automatic. It takes practice and a strong committment to your happiness and wellbeing. But when you realize how much power you have in doing so, it's like a breath of fresh air.
You can't control who likes you. You can't control the way people treat you. But you can control your thoughts. We should all continously work on the mind. Like Elizabeth says, it's the only thing we should be trying to control.
I've decided to be committed to the process of mastery, of working on my mind. Everything I thought I had no power over, I now realise that I do, and it starts and ends with my mind. I find this incredibly refreshing, but more importantly, it's true.
We can decide what thoughts we will allow ourselves to focus on, and if we keep choosing brave thoughts, one day we'll actually believe them. In the beginning, you will be pushing those positive thoughts in by force, but one day they'll find their home there. You won't have to convince yourself, you'll really know that life is good and that you're going to be OK.
Our minds are breeding grounds for the decisions that create our outcome in life.
Is there something in your life that you want to control so bad?
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