Toxic Friends | Signs of a Toxic Friendship
Is your friend toxic?
What’s the difference
between a healthy friendship and a toxic one?
This article is about
spotting toxic friends and how to see if you are trapped in a toxic friendship.
How to Spot Toxic Friends
When friendship is good, it’s really great – but if it goes
bad, it can go really bad. Many victims of toxic friendships stay so for a long
time, because they can’t really tell the difference between a healthy and toxic
They just accept their friend’s awful way of being a friend
even if it causes them to experience an onslaught of negative feelings and
So today we will be looking at the Signs of a Toxic Friendship and
how it can have such a draining effect on a person.
*Disclaimer* In this article we aren’t talking about
friendship in a normal situation, every friendship has its ups and downs, but
when we talk about toxic friendships it becomes more serious and is identified
by a combination of the ‘symptoms’ below.
‘Ooh Look at me’.. I’M OVER HERE!!
All About Them –
One sign of a toxic friendship is when a friend is obsessed
with themselves, and often leaves you out of discussion.
- It’s like you don’t
exist and you are merely there to agree with them and make them feel better
- Conversations always seem to revolve around your friend and
the dramas in their life.
This is not even about being a chatterbox, it’s when
their only interest is themselves and they can hardly be bothered about what
you may have to say.
Ever Mocking You
The next sign of toxic friends is when they are always
making fun of your decisions, of point of view, etc. almost as if your whole
life is a joke.
- You get really nervous about making the slightest mistake
around them- because you know they will take it to the next level and laugh
hysterically at you, but never with you.
- Such a friend constantly teases you
about things that you are even sensitive about, because it just seems to
provide some sort of entertainment for them.
This sort of friendship is otherwise known as bullying.
mean, true friends can tell you how distasteful your outfit is in a
non-offensive way. Toxic friends make it a pattern to do it in a way that
crushes your self-esteem.
Mr/Mrs Negative 24/7
Another characteristic with toxic friends is that they spend
most of their time being negative.
- Whether it is moaning, or criticizing your
other friends- you’ll always catch them doing it.
- Everything they see and think
is associated with negative emotions or carries a hint of spite.
know you’ve got a toxic friend when something happens to both of you - and your
friend’s version of events is so grossly exaggerated- to make everyone seem
cruel, while they look innocent.
Becomes Physically Tiring
After a while a toxic friendship can become physically
If you are always bombarded with negative thoughts you may
unconsciously absorb them, and this will leave you feeling mentally exhausted.
- Maybe this friend requests for endless, unreasonable favours
from you, or (in effect) demands for compliments before they can get anything
major done. This can make you feel quite weak.
- Just the thought of the vain
talks she gives you over coffee break is enough to make you feel tired and fed
- When they call you to come over you get sluggish because you know it
entails far more drama than you can handle.
Friendship’s meant to be fun and exhilarating, it’s not
supposed to make you feel like your friend’s hopeless slave.
Phone calls are hand bells
Yup. The kind of friend that only calls when they need
something from you.
- This is one of the most common signs that people use to
identify toxic friends.
- Healthy Friendships are balanced, so if you find that
you are constantly there for your friend- but they seem to disappear when you
need them – something’s not right.
Needing you isn’t necessarily the problem –
it’s the fact that they would prefer your relationship to be a one-way stream. Getting
all, but giving none.
The next sign of toxic friends is when they lie about you
and say absolutely horrible things behind your back. To the point where it’s
actually vicious slander.
- I think we’ve all felt apprehensive at one time about
whether our friend truly has our back or is getting ready to stab us in the
- A toxic friend will gossip about you and sometimes, they won’t
even hide it – it will be plain obvious.
The thing is, people who spread lies
about you, are not your friends. Simple. And toxic people will always do this
in the hopes that others won’t find you so attractive.
Everything Single Thing is a Competition
Another trait of toxic friends is that they will turn
everything into a competition and get moody when you seem to do better.
are never content to go hand in hand with you. No, they have to be better than
you, and just can’t stand it when you advance in some way.
- Competition can be
healthy, and it can motivate us to be better versions of ourselves, but when it
comes to toxic friends- it’s always an unhealthy spirit.
You achieve something that
you are proud of, then they try to outdo you, mainly to rub it in your face.
Forever Ditching You
Toxic friends use you when they need to – then run away
- If it comes to doing something they enjoy and take pride in, they will
always pick another friend over you.
- You are just their emergency backup or
there so they don’t look lonely.
It’s really sad when this happens, because it
so obvious that the friendship is non-existent and that you are just a ‘fill in’
for whoever they will be rushing too next. Not right, and not fair.
The Dangerous Friend
The last type of toxic friend that we will be looking at is
the friend who is a bad influence on you.
- It's true, and you just know that the friendship
does you no good- in fact it makes you more likely to get yourself in trouble.
with this kind of friend is actually dangerous- because you never know what
sort of pressure will be lurking around the corner.
- Sometimes this friend means
well, but their standards are far too low for you to become close to them.
friend shouldn’t make you feel uncomfortable and unsafe, so it’s best for you
to take step away from this sort of person.
Do any of these signs sound familiar? Maybe its time to
reassess your friendship (& end it), or tell your friend how you feel about what’s going
on. The relationships we have with others play an important role in good health
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