"You must learn to trust that there is a future waiting for you that is beyond what you might be able to grasp at this present moment."
Some things are really hard to understand. I'm sure there's many things going on in your life that feel quite impossible to grasp and make sense of.
I think that's because at this present moment we're right in the heat of things which makes processing it all very difficult. Time and again, I've experienced how the passing of time is a beautiful thing that brings clarity to situations that might have seemed hopeless.
One thing I've learned is that there are always going to be things you cannot grasp at a moment in time. Life is constantly moving rapidly, and just as soon as you think you've sorted something out, something else pops ups. The sooner you can appreciate this, the sooner you can enjoy a peaceful state of mind amidst all the chaos.
Not understanding is often not the problem, the problem arises when you decide to fill in all the gaps with assumptions of the situation. You can create a lot of anxiety and worry for yourself by assuming people's intentions or overthinking things that have happened. To counteract this danger, we have to consciously try to see things as they are rather than how we think they should be.
The greatest freedom arrives when you accept all the things you cannot grasp at the present moment for what they are - things you cannot grasp currently. Have faith that things will unfold how they are supposed to, and that everything will be ok in the end.
And it's crazy, sometimes the moment you stop looking for answers is when they appear. However when you're clinging onto fears and apprehension, it clouds your thinking and judgement. You worry about things that have not happened and may never even happen. It's always the things we don't know or understand that bite us the most, or itch like a severe rash.
The best state of mind is not just one where you are not worrying about the things you don't currently understand - it's one where you are optimistic and believe that the future can and will be excellent, despite the present fog. Not simply: "no bad will happen", but also "good things will happen, it will be ok."
Sometimes what it takes is looking back at all the things that used to make you feel insecure and nervous, and realise how everything turned out well and exactly how it should in the end. It's never as bad as you think.
This brings to mind a post I wrote a while back about how uncertainty is a double-edged sword that we just have to make peace with. If you haven't read that post already, I encourage you to check it out.
Having faith in the future will help you get through all the confusion of the present. Who knows - a few weeks or months may be all that's need for you to feel more stable and as though you've got a reasonable grasp on the issues that trouble you.
But patience is necessary. Knowledge builds on knowledge and there are always new aspects of things to be discovered, even on matters you thought you knew well. So have patience and trust the process, everything will happen how it is supposed to.
And maybe in a few years, you'll be looking back and laughing about how you got your knickers in a twist over this issue that turns out to be insignificant in the bigger picture...
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