5 Things to Stop Doing If You Want to Feel More Fulfilled

Are you unintentionally engaging in behaviours that leave you feeling depleted and empty? Here are 5 things to stop doing if you want to feel more fulfilled.

Your energy is expensive.

Every moment you spend feeding things that drain you is time that you could be spending doing the opposite - building yourself up with things that make you feel revitalized and refreshed.

Here are 5 things to stop doing if you want to feel more fulfilled.

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1. Spending all of your free time with other people

Now this isn't about being an introvert or extrovert.

Whether you recharge by spending time with others or being alone, a healthy amount of solitude is a prerequisite for a fulfilling life.

After all, if you spend all of your time with others, what time would you have left to think? To figure out who you really are?

The fact is that the people who are the best to be around socially are people who have genuine personalities and interests that they've built up during time in solitude.

But it's not just for other people - carving out time alone allows you to recalibrate and refocus on yourself, so that you're aligned and balanced no matter what the external world throws at you.

Whether that's making time to journal alone in the evenings, or taking yourself out to a solo movie date, every moment that you invest in yourself will improve the quality of your life overall.

2. Having all your ongoing projects be work projects

People who lead a truly fulfilling life have something they can call their own outside of work projects.

Life can be so busy, and it's easy to find yourself working all the time, but when you are intentional and dedicate time to spend on projects outside of work, that's when you feel like you are really living.

It doesn't even have to be something big or time-consuming - it can be something enjoyable that naturally aligns with your interests.

For example, if you're into crafts, you might start a sketchbooking or crocheting project.

If you're into building furniture, you might start a woodworking project.

For me, that's writing this blog, although I have other projects that I engage in as well because I like my mind to constantly be stimulated with things that are meaningful to me.

The point is - have something to show for yourself for the days, weeks, months and years that go by.

You could end up creating something you're really proud of and that gives you joy to look back on.

3. Comparing yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others will always make you less fulfilled, and one reason is because you never have the whole picture.

No one's life is exactly the way it appears on the outside - the people you admire are often dealing with challenges and even insecurities you know nothing about.

They also may be in a completely different chapter of their life than you are, and here you are comparing your chapter 2 to their chapter 22.

Comparison is not fruitful - but a more productive thing to do is to let other people's successes be an inspiration for you and a sign of what's also possible for you.

Everybody's journey is different, and you have the privilege of creating a beautiful life that's unique and special to you.

4. Saying yes when you mean no

How often do you say yes to something when deep down, you'd rather not do it at all?

If you want to live a more fulfilling life, you'll need to cut out that habit.

Of course, there are times where you might lend a hand and do something that's inconvenient for you because you know how much it will benefit another person and you'd like to provide support.

However, that's different from developing a pattern of saying yes to anything you're asked because you can't stand finding out how that person might react if you say no.

That's called people-pleasing, and it is unconducive to a fulfilling life.

If you want to love your life, you need to get used to being yourself and allowing others to be themselves too.

The more you learn to say no, you realize that nothing really is personal, and it'll make it easier for you to accept when other people say no to you too.

If you need any help in this area, I highly recommend reading The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban. It's a life-changing book.

5. Taking your current situation too seriously

I'll leave you with one final thing that people often underestimate when creating a fulfilling life: the power of seeing beyond your current situation.

If you're going through a hard time right now, it can feel impossible to imagine things getting any better.

But the reality is that your belief in better is what creates it.

So never allow what you're currently seeing in your 3D reality to create a limit of what you think is possible for you.

A lot can change in a week, month or year.

Something really positive could happen to you at the end of this week that you never saw coming.

Keep your vision focused on the best case scenario, and act like it is about to happen.

The more you open yourself up to opportunities and expect good things to happen, the more your external reality will shift to confirm your expectations.

It has no choice but to.

Final Thoughts

Living a more fulfilling life takes intention and clarity, but it doesn't need to be a faraway goal, it's something you can step towards right now.

I hope one or all of the above points resonate with you. The beautiful thing is that none of these things rely on people or events outside of you, they are all within your control.

All it takes is bringing your attention back to them and making the corresponding shifts in your energy.

A wildly fun and fulfilling life is closer than you think.

To your success,

Roli Edema

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